Two of the most powerful words you could use to start a sentence. What comes after ‘I am’ will determine how a lot of things will go for you in life.
I want to help people be kind to themselves; to help give yourself grace and be patient with yourself. I want to help you LOVE yourself. I know how hard it is, I really do. I believe loving yourself starts with ‘I am’ and positive comments following. You have the power to change your entire outlook daily and CHOOSE to be happy just by words you speak to yourself and others because happiness isn’t a destination, it’s a choice.
“I am so stupid”, “I am so fat”
The words that follow ‘I am’ have the power to build you up or tear you down. If you’re negative and hard on yourself, you’re going to feel worse about yourself. You’re going to feel even more defeated than you did the day before. That is how you will see yourself; what you’ll convince yourself that you are.
“I am strong”, I am beautiful”, “I am deserving of love”, “I am important”
If you are positive, love yourself, show yourself grace, and kindness, then you are going to feel pretty damn good. I can promise you that you’ll have a much better outlook on yourself and others. Your mind is such a powerful engine and should can be used to boost up your mood and outlook.
‘The Law of Attraction’ – real shiz right there, y’all. I used to think the law of attraction was a complete joke. I would laugh at people who thought that it was true and call it “hippie stuff”. That was the single most depressing period of my life. Every thought was negative; “poor me”, “I am fat”, “I am ugly”, “I am boring”. Then one night the hubs, who is the most positive person I have met, turned on ‘The Secret’ on Netflix, which I highly recommend watching. It’s hella cheesy, but just ignore that and intently watch and listen to the message. While we were watching it, I kept making fun of it and being like “pshh yeah right”.
The days that followed watching ‘The Secret’, I decided to take the message to thought. I started researching The Law of Attraction and reading experiences that other’s had with it. I thought that if it’s working for all of these people, why wouldn’t it work for me? That’s the day that changed so much for me. I started speaking kindly to myself and stating affirmations in my head. I started brushing off the small, insignificant, annoying things. Now, don’t get me wrong, there are still some days, even weeks, where I am negative and have a ‘poor me‘ attitude, which are the worst weeks for me. Things don’t go well at work, I find myself bickering and starting unnecessary arguments with my husband, and my self love is at an all-time low. It’s crazy how your thoughts have a huge part to play in how positive or negative your life is.
I made a ‘I Am Me’ mantra that I have hung up on my desk at work. I spend 40 hours a week there so I thought that it would be the best place to have a daily reminder. Feel free to use it as your reminder. You can use it as is or go ahead and change it up and add more things that YOU are. Here it is:
I am inspired. I am whole. I am grateful. I am vibrant. I am strong. I am mindful. I am secure. I am positive. I am brave. I am abundant. I am enough. I am unstoppable. I am fun. I am humble. I am awake. I am determined. I am compassionate. I am healthy. I am generous. I am excited. I am talented. I am confident. I am successful. I am organized. I am blessed. I am fearless. I am beautiful. I am adventurous. I am spiritual. I am patient. I am evolving. I am divine.
I am me.
Since having this up on my desk at work I have noticed how much it has helped me learn to love myself and learn to be more positive. If I am feeling frustrated, angry or sad, I will look up and read it to myself. It changes my mood so fast and helps me remember how blessed I am.
I challenge you to go to the mirror today. Go shower yourself with comments. Then try to do this daily. It’s really awkward, I know. SO awkward. The more you do it, the more it will become your norm and something you look forward to daily. If you don’t feel comfortable with that (yet), then start out with sticky notes. Leave them on mirrors; on your nightstand; in your workout area, if you have one at home. Seeing these words of affirmation daily will help you love yourself and be a more positive person. When you’re comfortable with that, start complimenting yourself in the mirror. Actually, say the words out loud! It only takes a minute or two and will be well worth your time, I promise.
Thanks for reading. I love you, so you should love you too!